I recently caught myself in a serious spin. It was a social media wormhole spin.  Follow me for a moment: I was convinced everything about my life was somehow *less* than what I was seeing online.  I was the worst designer that ever was.  We had the ugliest shop in Portland.  We had the worst house, the worst taste, the worst clothes, etc etc etc, pit, hole, desperation, ugliness, blah! And what's worse?? I realized I'd only just wasted a heck of a lot of time, while I could have been doing something productive--or at least finding inspiration in the images and ideas that I paddled through. As if that wasn't enough, I spent the next bit of time wondering what was wrong with me, why I would allow myself down this path when there's so much I love about my life.  Yeah: straight up wormhole. But then, I felt comfort in knowing that I couldn't be the only one who experiences this. Things like Instagram and Facebook are filled with the edited versions of our lives, the things we find beautiful or want to share with the world. It makes sense that a passenger through that, may occasionally feel anxiety--like their life isn't quite stacking up compared to those they follow. When in reality, I think we all have our not-so-pretty sides---and ultimately, isn't that what makes us beautiful in the end? That's when I thought of it: The Rough Edges Project. Here's my idea: we embrace and expose.  All the parts of our lives that we generally wouldn't want people to see or that we're not as proud of--the parts that make us real. Add a pretty filter if you like, but no staging, no editing.  Let's see each others' Rough Edges.  Perhaps in exposing these things we'll feel a sense of relief, we'll try to improve the things we consider our faults, we'll find comfort in our peers "flaws", or maybe it will just inspire laughs. Whatever the case, I hope it's a good feeling and not a bad one. I hope it makes you smile. And I hope you'll join in! [caption id="attachment_8614" align="aligncenter" width="850"]There's nothing like overworked, red, swollen little tootsies. I thought this 3 month old toe-nail polish project would be a nice one to highlight, too. Gotta make some time for those toes! OH NO!! Look at those toes!! There's nothing like overworked, red, swollen little tootsies. I thought this 3 month old toe-nail polish project would be a nice one to highlight, too.[/caption]   [caption id="attachment_8612" align="aligncenter" width="560"]This is the state in which I usually find our car's main console. It drives me crazy every time I see it. This is the state in which I usually find our car's main console. It drives me crazy every time I see it.[/caption]   [caption id="attachment_8615" align="aligncenter" width="850"]I have a very bad habit of picking my thumbs when I'm nervous. I have a very bad habit of picking my thumbs when I'm nervous.[/caption] We will be posting pictures of imperfect things through our Instagram account whenever we feel compelled. We will compile project collections for the blog, so check back to get your dose of our rough edges. If you feel like joining in, add this to your posts: #roughedgesproject. I really hope you guys join in and that you find some joy in this! In the meantime, sail into the weekend with a lot of love in your hearts; and I will too! xo~betsy ***Song of the moment: The Good Life (is wasted), by Lambchop***

14 thoughts on The Rough Edges Project.

Betsy:

hahaha! Jen, we are sisters!! I won’t even begin to tell you all my things…

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Jessica:

It’s Friday night and I am sitting at home recuperating from a fall down a flight of stairs which resulted in 2 nights at the hospital and a cracked eye socket along with other complications. I’ve been exhausted, just dealing with the emotions and physical side affects of said fall which was 3 weeks ago already. I’m still decompressing, healing, and just being with myself. And it makes me feel like a total dud. I feel like I should be out living and playing. I was lucky. I didn’t die. I didn’t break my spine. Shouldn’t I be out dancing and loving life?

It’s hard to remind yourself that sometimes, life is ugly and you have to just be okay with it being ugly. It’s the ugly moments that make the beautiful ones all the more wonderful.
(Also, I spend way too much time in my head these days).

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Betsy:

That’s so tough, Jessica! But I’m glad you’re okay and I love your words of wisdom. So true!

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

laura:

betsy, you.nailed.it.
i love this post. thanks so much for being real, it’s utterly refreshing.
x
laura

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Betsy:

Laura,
I’m so happy you connected with it! Thank you for your sweet words. I find all of your work real & refreshing.

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Betsy:

Erica, you are so sweet! I will definitely call you up next time.

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Betsy:

Sierra,

I’m so glad you can relate! Sometimes is just so hard to shake ourselves out of it. Let’s do it!

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Betsy:

Maba,

I’m so glad you like it! Everything tough is always easier to deal with when friends are by our sides.

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Betsy:

Katie,

We need to take care of our thumbs! I’m so glad I’m not the only one!

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

jen goff:

this is hilarious, at the moment i was reading this i was picking at the edge of my thumb!! my finger nail polish is crumbling off, my bathrobe looks like i dug it out of the dumpster and my backseat has a tiny patch of mold growing on it! hahah!!! love this idea, makes us all a little more real.

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Katie:

Great idea! I do the same damage to my thumbs. Checking in with them is one way to gauge my overall stress levels.

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

maba:

This is waaaaay tooooo cute…and yet ugly! I love this idea!
So true about social networks show the sunny side of what we have going on in life. It would be curious if some told about what was really going on in their life. EVERYBODY has rough, rowdy, and as Paul Harvey says, “The rest of the story!” in our lives.

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Sierra:

Holy Shizzle you read my mind!!!! I have been spiraling down this hole for the past few weeks, everything you mentioned above are EXACTLY the types of things I’ve been saying to myself. I totally NEED this project, and so happy you came up with the idea…BRILLIANT!

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

Erica @ Garnish:

Love it Betsy! I was biting my nails as I was reading. You have found a great way to help us give ourselves a break. We all need that (do men do this too? Or is it just us women???).
Thanks,
Erica
p.s. I always think you are a wonderful designer with a wonderful sense of style so next time you start to spiral call me to stop the spin!

October 05 2016 at 09:10 PM

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